Sexy Shenanigans

In the beginning there was Patrick and Kathleen but people refer to us as Pat and Kat, it’s kind of catchy in the “lifestyle”.  We are your average everyday young professional couple and we work hard at our professional and family lives and therefore value our playtime.  One would never guess what we consider or what we like to do for fun.  If our families ever found out, well let’s just say that the shit may definitely hit the fan.   So as we mentioned before the term “lifestyle”, it’s a pseudo-name for swinging.  Yes that is so very correct.  We are swingers and we love it!

So what is it about this “lifestyle” that has us hooked?  It’s the variety, the excitement, and also the fact that we don’t have to cheat on one another to have sex with someone else.  We both agree that we love to watch one another with someone else and we are ok with the fact another couple is having their way with us. 

Now don’t get us wrong, it’s not that we just choose any old couple to fool around with.  First off, there always has to be a mutual attraction for the both of us.  There is no “taking one for the team” scenario with us.  Next there needs to be chemistry, hot steamy sexy chemistry is preferred.  There also needs to be a certain level of intellect amongst all participants.  Now all these elements combined make for a definite and exciting night of pure sex and fun.  Without any of these mentioned elements, the night can take a turn for the worse and put us in an awkward situation.

Now if you don’t understand what swinging is all about, we’ll tell you it in a nutshell.  Swinging is just having sex with multiple partners.  It’s just that…SEX.  Some people get confused about this because they attach the word “love” with sex.  However for all intents and purposes, swinging is just a physical activity, nothing more and nothing less than that.  Love on the other hand is an emotion that encompasses sex solely between two partners, or that’s just our belief. 

If you happen to be interested in swinging by chance there are a few key rules you need to establish before you even think about contacting another couple or single female/male.  First off you need to have a strong level of trust between you and your partner, this means jealousy cannot exist.  You’d be surprised how fast the green-eyed monster will creep up on you as you watch your partner for the first time experimenting with another person.  Be wary of this and get your emotions in check.  If you feel this emotion coming on you must discuss it immediately with your partner in private. 

Second, you need to talk before hand and establish your comfort boundaries.  Meaning, how far do you want to go with another couple.  Third, communication is the key!  This cannot be stressed enough by any and every couple you talk to.  You need to discuss your feelings, encounters, your likes and dislikes with swinging or you will not be able to enjoy yourselves wholly.  Fourth, establish rules that the two you follow when one is not around.  For instance:  only voice-verify or use the webcam when you and your partner are together.  Stick by what you agree to and don’t let anyone make you do otherwise.

When you do get ready to meet a couple, make sure that there is the equal attraction between everyone.  No one likes to get their time wasted.  Swinging involves sex and everyone knows that.  If they have pictures makes sure they are up to date, females can always talk on the phone to establish that the couple is a real couple.  If you agree to meet a couple, then meet them. Do not call to cancel at the last minute or not even bother to show up (however there are always exceptions).  You want to establish a good reputation as a couple or individual in the “lifestyle”. 

With all that being said, here is a little background on how we became swingers.  We were both involved in the “lifestyle” before we met each other.  In fact neither knew what the other was into until about a month into dating.  I, Kat, was involved with someone else in the lifestyle for 3 years before meeting Pat.  Pat on the other hand had no clue what swinging was until he was approached by a MILF at his local watering hole the night of his 30^th birthday.  He was the boy toy of a couple for 2 years before he met me, Kat.  Then through talking we both found out what the other was into and we decided to try it together, and ya know what?  We really enjoyed it, so we stuck with it.  That is us in a nutshell.  We are drama-free, easy going, laidback and fun individuals who like to have sex together with others. 

This is not meant to be used as an introduction into swinging.  This is just an inside look at some of our experiences and maybe some of our experiences (good and bad) can help you or just make you jealous.  When Pat and I began swinging together he had to adapt a total different mindset.  He used to be the single guy and now he was part of a couple.  It took a while for him to fully understand everything.  He knew the most important rule of all that I, the female, am always in charge.  However we always discuss everything so for arguments sake we take a 50-50 stance on all decisions.  Also, we do not like single guys, Pat has a dislike for them more than I do.  If we get invited to a house party, his preference is no single guys.  He used to be one, so he knows how their minds work.

Since we began swinging we have encountered some interesting couples and individuals.  We have also been in some sticky situations and it’s not the good kind either.  We’ve encountered flakes, phonies, posers, prostitutes, and real genuine couples.  Before the internet it almost makes you wonder how on earth people swung.  They couldn’t view a person’s profile or look at their pictures.  They went into this with full blinders on.  I shudder to think how many couples went through that.  Thank you 20^th Century so much for the creation of the internet and all these crazy new swingers’ websites.

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